I don't know what it is, but I just don't date people who are in close proximity to me.
I've been with my boyfriend Daniel for approximately two and a half years now and one day, I hope that he'll toss a shiny ring at me and we'll live in a hip, fun city with a dog or two. Right now, we're close to ten hours apart. The funny thing is, that sometimes I forget the hundreds of miles that separate us and I think about giving him a great big hug when I get back to my dorm room as I'm walking from class. Yeah, I'm in one of those impossible "long distance relationships" that everyone things are inevitable recipes for disaster and you know what? I am proving people wrong every single day that goes by. We attend universities that are separated by over 400 miles and see each other every few months during the college school year. When at home, we can't surprise each other with a stop at one's house because it's an hour and a half commute from door to door. To everyone who says "they don't work", that's a bold statement with no boldness behind it.
Rather than get all mushy-gushy about how much I am in love (which I am by the way), I'd rather talk about HOW it works and WHY it's possible. So stay with me non-believers. The first step and foundation for everything: You must believe that it can work.
It may look like I have some sick obsessive tendency when people walk in my room and I have photographs of my boyfriend on my wall next to my bed, on my desk, and other random locations scattered about my dorm. But in reality, it's my way to remind me of his many faces, many expressions. Glancing at a photo of the two of us, a still moment from one of the many adventures we have been on, keeps my head on straight in those times that I just want to throw in the towel and run away to never-never land. The best gift he has ever given me to this day has been a webcam (get your mind out of the gutter...though in reality, good call!). There are times that we will log onto Skype together and video chat, sans chat, just to be able to look at each other between homework problems or during the turn of a page. I've been told it's weird, but I think it's something valuable to be able to just enjoy the "presence" of him being there, even if it is through a computer screen. I think that the biggest part of learning to live with distance, is learning to make the best of every situation and realize that for now it's your only option; but better things are always to come.
I could go on and on for sure, but really it's not the point. The point is that you have to know yourself and your limits. You have to know that sometimes you have to let things go. That nothing in life is easy and the best things require a little bit of elbow grease to reach.
Everything is of course always people-dependent. We both are independent thinkers, set high goals for ourselves and keep ourselves busy with the lives we lead here and there. It's amazing how a simple phone call to talk about what to have for dinner or what a professor said in class today can make you feel like a part of someone's life. It's work though, don't let me deceive you.
Love love.
Be creative.
Go with the flow.
I love you Dan and I can't wait to see you next, whenever that will be.
Monday, February 16, 2009
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I think this is going to help prep me for the fall.
ReplyDelete<3 I'm always there if you ever want a girl talk!
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